My best to you moving forward Paul. I'm sure things will work out. They always seem too. Although hearing that right now doesn't make the situation any less sh*tty - but I'm sure you'll find something you like better in the near future.

thanks guys

we are looking at another property, not quite as nice but almost

Hope it works out for the better. Maybe you'll find the same situation down the road for less money, and you won't be so strapped to purchase it.